Music is such an
important part of our family's life. My parents met each other dancing, and
they danced their entire lives together. My father-in-law is a Cantor, and my husband, daughter, and son are all musicians. We
are surrounded by music.
So, sometime in early
November, when my children start asking when the radio station is going to be
all-Christmas, I bristle. I tell them that if it starts before Thanksgiving, I just can't
listen to it. Christmas music should be special. For me, it brings back all kinds
of December memories, so I'd prefer that it not start in mid-November. When I hear
The Little Drummer Boy, I think about the living nativity. When we
sing O Come All Ye Faithful, it reminds me that my Dad wouldn't let
us put the baby Jesus in the manger until late on Christmas Eve. We Three
Kings is a reminder that the Three Wise Men shouldn't be placed around
the nativity until January 6th - the feast of the Epiphany. Rudolph and I
Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus bring back memories of singing along with
Mitch Miller. I try to make all of these connections for my children, at least
letting them in on the memories, even if the religious ones don't resonate with
them.
Singing Stille Nacht |
Our family has built
a musical Christmas tradition that feels familiar to all of us. It is a week
away. I am deep into the prep at this point, and as much as I may whine about it, I enjoy it. I turn on a sappy Hallmark channel movie or sing along to Christmas carols, as I clean the house from top to bottom. We host an annual holiday party with a typical crowd of about 100 (and invite 200). It’s a
real mix of Christians and Jews. Everyone comes together, in our interfaith
home, to celebrate the season. Our house is decorated with snowmen, carolers, ornament trees, and menorahs. It is comfortable for everyone, and it brings
them joy. My Jewish husband plays the piano, and our family and friends join us
to sing Christmas carols and a few Chanukah songs.
Lots of Little Ones - All Grown Up Now |
Many of my brothers, sisters-in-law, nieces, nephews, spouses, and children come. When my parents joined us, they danced during their favorite
songs. The year Mom passed away, it was bittersweet when we sang, Grandma Got
Run Over by a Reindeer. Another year, my very dear friend stepped up to
the piano to belt out Santa Baby" with me. Did you know that there are lots of Jews who love to sing Christmas carols? One of my vivid memories from this day is of my Jewish sister-in-law and my father-in-law, the Cantor, singing Stille Nacht (Silent Night) at the piano. There are a few people who have
made it every year - for 24 years. Many have come for at least 20! Each year,
there is someone who joins us for the first time. Our friends' children have
grown up coming to our party. This year, a little girl who wore her velvet
Christmas dress at age 4, will bring her boyfriend at age 19. Now, our children invite their high school and college friends to join us. When, in November, people start
asking "When is your party," you know you've created a
tradition.
Getting Ready Many Years Ago |
Our children enjoy
preparing for the big day, and they look forward to inviting new friends. My daughter even postponed her Birthright Israel trip, because it would overlap our holiday party. One
boy, after coming for the past 8 or so years, visited a few days after the
party to make gingerbread houses. He was surprised that we were playing
Christmas music. "I thought you were Jewish," he said. "We are,
but haven't you been coming to our holiday party for years?" He responded,
"Yes, but I thought you just did that for the Christians!"
You know what? I
think we're doing it right.
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